Essential Dating
Technique - The Fine Art Of Kissing
You may be the smoothest operator ever to grace a
singles barstool, you may have the looks an extra on The O.C.
and the sensitivity of the Dalai Lama, but if you're terrible
at tonsil hockey or a let down at the lip-lock, then you're
just not gonna make it in the romance stakes.
According to John L. Ferri, author of Sex in the Romance: A
Review of Romantic Encounters of the Close Kind: "Kissing is an
art and a highly individual and personal expression of
affection and love." Scientists tell us that kissing signals
our brains to produce oxytocin, a hormone that gives us that
gooey-all-over feeling we experience when making mouth music.
If done properly it'll make you as horny as hell and is a
bloody good indication of how you'll be in the sack.
So it's very important to get it right. Nothing turns a
prospective bed mate off faster than a lousy kisser, such as
the "Niagara Falls", who produces enough slobber to wash your
car, or the "electric eel", whose tongue travels so far down
your throat it begins to choke you. While everyone must develop
their own technique, here are a few general pointers to ensure
you keep them coming back for more.
Good breath is essential. OK so a taste of mouthwash is a
dead giveaway you were anticipating a bit of nookie, but that
beats the hell out of ashtray breath.
A bit of sensitivity goes a long way. Your smooching partner
is probably not going to tell you how they like to be kissed,
so you'll have to use trial and error (hopefully not too much
error). Experiment with taking and following the lead, a
mixture of tenderness and aggressiveness and kissing different
parts of the body and face. Be playful and have fun!
Remember a good kiss is its own reward. Just enjoy it and
don't get too caught up in thinking about what it might lead to
- just let nature take its course.
Charles Cuninghame is a website copywriter in Sydney, Australia,
and an online dating enthusiast.
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