Post Divorce Parenting - Dos and Don’ts
Divorces have become very common and So is Post divorce Parenting problem
“Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body” - Elizabeth Stone
I agree, but if things don’t go in the way we expected, it could be continuous frustration and worry about our children which would eat our life.
The divorce rate in the United States is estimated by some statisticians to be close to 50 percent. All over the world it is increasing. With this the number of single mothers is also increasing.
Divorce affects both the spouses psychologically. But you can manage yourselves as you are matured ones. But what about children, your walking hearts? Did you ever sense your child feeling “My dad divorced my mom and it is kind of like him leaving me also.”
Now, are you able to come out the crisis and become both dad and mom to your children. Are you ready to send your child to its father once in a while so that the little one can feel the love of both the parents? Of course, this depends on the situation. But the question is can we forget our ego to make our children healthy both mentally and physically?
It would be your responsibility to see that children do not become the victims of your divorce. But how? How to bring up our children in this case? How to save them from psychological pressure?
This is the question that arises in each and every divorced woman with the responsibility of looking after her children.
Post Divorce Parenting made easy:
Try to bring yourself out of the crisis first by spending more and more time with your children.
Study how do your children behave after divorce, How much they are attached to the father, Are they interested to meet their father in weekends and find out whether your ex is ready to take care of them once in while. If this could be done, half of your problem is solved. Who knows, sweet children might bring your ex back to you.
Talk to your ex about the children, their development or changes so that both are informed and involved in the child’s development.
Be friendly with your ex so that whenever you meet each other at parties or get together children do not get embarrassed.
But don’t do the followings:
- Never curse your ex in front of your children and try to develop hatreds among the children for their father.
- Never transfer your anger, frustration, hurt feelings towards your ex on children, they are not the culprits.
- Never deny if your children want to meet or talk to your ex. If you deny they may develop hatred towards you and your decision to separate.
- When you send your children to your ex don’t use them as your pawn to get him back or hurt him. That might make him avoid children. Without any tricks children might get him back to you.
- Don’t depend on your children too much for companionship and support as you are lonely. This not good for both you and the children.
- Never make your children to feel guilty to meet their father, take it as their natural desire and encourage it.
- Never hesitate to talk to your ex about their behavior, development and future plans. Both the parents should have the concern and should know what is happening to the growing child.
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